Thursday, February 13, 2014

Love Sin Forgiveness and Change

Honea Path, South Carolina
Reflecting on what is in our heart is essential to a good marriage.

I am about to start on business work. It is 5:48 am and everything is out and ready to go, but I know that there are things I need to bring to God first. Issues in my heart and mind cloud my thinking. The importance of righteousness cannot be understated.
  • I need to go before my God and repent of my sin and through the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross and His resurrection three day later,
  • I can come before God and ask for forgiveness
  • ask Him to help me see what I did wrong
  • really on His strength and mercy – grace – to not do it again
  • seek Him for ways to change and how do I need to do it differently

As I seek Him this morning, I am not just going to repent and then move on. I believe true repentance is
  • ·       sincerely feeling sorry for what I have done
  • ·         recognizing the depth of my sin and offense
  • ·         loving God and coming before Him with true sorrow for doing it wrong, whether it be a thought or action
  • ·         receiving God’s forgiveness and letting His light, life, and love fill that hole in my heart that I caused
  • ·         standing in His presence knowing that He does not condone my sin but that He loves me dearly and cherishes me
  • ·         then I move forward and with His help and strength I do not sin again
  • ·         If I need to ask someone for forgiveness, then I need to do it swiftly and sincerely.

My sin this morning is a personality flaw. I’m not sure exactly how to change. I know I need to word things differently when I talk to my husband about something I disagree with. How can I still show respect and disagree? Am I being rude or is he? Does he not like it when I disagree or am I being rude?

Because I love him and truly am a peacemaker, I will seek God before I speak and I will try to change.

True love is willing to give up and to change. True love isn’t a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers.
 I don’t need those things or even want them. All I want is a good relationship with my husband. I will give up anything to have that as long as it does not cause me to sin. As I do this I must not get a victim mentality. It is easy to feel wounded and hurt and react to it and then feel like I am a victim.

So for each change he feels I need to make, I take it before God and ask God how to handle it.
Sometimes we think we are right and that our spouse is wrong, but what if that is not the case? What if I am actually doing exactly what I am being accused of?


It is a hard pill to swallow, but I have to do it. So, I get a big glass of water and gulp it down and hope that it does its work in my body, heart, mind, and spirit.