Friday, December 28, 2012

Love Story - Love to Be Together


Many people are divorced by the time they are married for 21 years.  I remember telling my husband that we need to be careful and not take for granted our relationship.  There are many friends and family members that have gotten a divorce around 21 years of marriage.

Yet, I find that our relationship is getting better and better.  He loves me more than last year and I love him more.

Recently, we got together with some family who came to visit.  They were sight seeing and exploring as much as possible.  I was thrilled they got to come to Utah and see us and such a great state.  But, Shae chose to stay with the kids and I when everyone else split up on hikes.  He wanted to drive us around or explore with his younger children and wife.

I didn't make him stay with me.  
I didn't guilt him into spending time with us.  
Manipulation was not used or any type of fear tactics.  

He loves me.  He loves his family.  We are all so close and have a great time together.  

Why would we want to be apart?

(picture above taken at The Weeping Rock at Zion National Park, Utah by
Hanna Smith www.hannasmithonline.blogspot.com   She is my daughter.
She does some of the graphic art for me.)

Thursday, December 27, 2012

The Sock Fiscal Cliff





With the economy in the pot as well as a fiscal cliff larger than the one my children peered down at Angel's Landing in Zion National Park, we are trying to be debt free and teach our children to be even more fiscally responsible.

I get up early to write before everyone wakes up.  I had the news on, Ch 4 ABC out of Salt lake City, Utah.  The anchorman on that news show is a riot.  He tore apart our elected leaders and gave his very pointed opinion.  He stated that if we didn't have a budget for four years and we didn't pay our bills then we would be in jail!  Yet, our law makers can do just that.

It is sad we cannot use our government as an example to teach our children financial responsibility.  But, we can start in our own homes.  

Hence, the next year.

We are cutting back and forward and sideways - everything we feel we can do without.

My children have always been taught the value of the dollar and being caretakers of what they own.  When my oldest two turned 15 yrs old they had to save their money to buy clothes and the items they needed that were beyond what mom and dad would provide.  

So - when my son walked out of the bedroom yesterday I almost cried laughing when he told me his great idea.

He walked out and said, "Mom, I got a great idea.  My socks are wearing out on the bottom so I turned them around so the heel is on the top.  Now I can wear them longer!"

My husband replied while I doubled over in laughter, "I guess you will get blisters on the top now!"

I laughed all day about it.  He is such a nut - but frugal!

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Hope for the New Year

Holidays come and go and it seems they bring a mix of memories good and bad.

As a wife of a ill husband, the holidays were not easy or even inwardly joyful many years. I remember the sadness and compassion that filled my heart as I watched my husband suffer through the normally joyful days surrounding Christmas.  He put on a good show, and so did I.  But, always in my heart was sorrow mixed with joy; sorrow over his illness and joy over him being alive and the wonderful blessings around me.

Every year I can't help but reflect on the difficult years of the past and remember the hope that the New Year brings.

Hope for healing.
Hope for happiness.
Hope for fun and laughter.
Hope for financial favor.
Hope for outward love not just the knowing in my heart because he can't say it because of pain.
Hope for a better year than the last.

As a spouse of an ill loved one, the New Year brings a Hope for something more and something better.

But, what if it doesn't come?  What if this year is worse than the last?

Hope and Fear combine to bring Anxiety and Anxiousness.

Do not worry about tomorrow for today has enough trouble of its own.   - God.

Do not lose your hope for a better day.  But, in having that hope do not rest your happiness upon it.  Our happiness must come from within not in circumstances.  I learned this sometime during year 10-12 of my husband's condition.  I was always looking forward to when his pain would ease up but God showed me that I was not to live for another day but find an inner peace and joy in today.  He didn't get better right away, in fact it got much worse for many years - even close to death numerous times.

I give you hope for this year - a hope that no one can take, no pain can steal, no anxiety or anger can destroy.

Find your Hope in Jesus and his Love - Peace He will give to you, not like the world's peace.  It is a peace that passes all our understanding.  Just start by reminding yourself of little things to be thankful for.  Forget the big ones, like - "At least we don't live in a box!"  Or how bout' this one, "At least he isn't dead."  Honestly, it just hurt more when people would try to remind me of how much easier it was for me.  The fact is - It Is Hard!  So, I tried to find little things in my day that were good.  I was thankful for the little he would eat, or the picture my kids made us that day, the call from a dear friend, or a beautiful sunset.

I do understand.  I do remember.  I won't ever forget - not in unforgiveness, just a reminder and a fact.


Monday, December 24, 2012

Christmas Eve Winter Storm

The kids could hardly stand it - one day until Christmas.  We opened up the name exchange gifts for them to enjoy before the big day - tomorrow.

While the kids played and their 18 yr old sister watched them, my husband, son, and I went for our daily hike.  We barely got out of town when the storm hit.  The light snow fall turned into what seemed like a blizzard.  The wind whipped and the snow blew sideways.

I was so thankful we were not further up the valley towards the mountain.  Safety wasn't an issue just the thought of having to hike through the strong wind and snow would have been freezing.

The temperature dropped and the wet roads almost instantly turned to slush.  Being from northern Wisconsin, I have seen my share of blizzards and winter storms, but this one was definitely one of the worst to whip up so fast and hard.

What a great adventure and memory but now I am glad to be  back in the cabin - warm and cozy.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Give Up, Let Go, and Let God

There are some things we have to give up on.  Things in life may not change - I call them unchangables.

To lose hope in an area is not always a bad thing.  After years of wanting a certain person to change in an area I have finally given up.  They are not going to change.

So, what do I need to do to be able to accept that person for who they are and not who I need them to be?

If it is a problem that can hurt me physically - than I have to remove myself from that relationship.

But, what if the problem is one that hurts me emotionally?

There is an excellent book called,Boundaries.  It talks about how to love others with out letting that same relationship destroy you.  I've learned a few things:
It is OK to say no.

It is OK to have emotions.

It is OK to not be in a relationship with a person who is destructive.  It does not mean I am in unforgiveness or bitter - it just means that that person cannot be in my life in a deep way.

A counselor told me that our life is like a pie.  We only have to let some people see a piece of it.  We should not let them have it all.  And then there are others who can handle the entire pie and will honor and respect it.  The counselor told me that some people will know the Sheri who was in the military and another person will know the homeschooler side of me.  Yet another will know me by my travels and others still will know my goofy side.  Not everyone can and should get all of me.  It is not healthy for me or those I love.

So, I evaluate my relationships and remind myself when I am serving them too much of me.

Back to the unchangables.  I have lost hope in certain people changing.  Losing hope is extremely freeing.  I hand that person over to God and pray I will learn to love them just the way they are.  Does that mean that my love for them will mean I talk with them all the time or get together with them - no.  It means that I know God is bigger than any problem, fault, or hurt and only He can reveal some things.  So, I give up and let go.  I let go of the relationship and let God be in control  of my life, emotions, relationships, and future.  I can't talk with that person anymore but God will and does love them.

It is OK.  I am telling myself this.  I will be OK.  As long as God is for me - who can be against me?  Take the pole out of my eye.  Help me to not be blind to my own faults.    Help me to see where I need to change.  Heal my heart.  I speak peace, joy, and true love.  Bless those who persecute me.  Help them see their actions and consequences.  Soften their hearts.  Bring true, lasting change where it needs to be and repentance for their sins.  Thank you Lord that vengeance is yours.  Yet, I pray for mercy and restoration with You for me and the person who hurt me.  Show me what to do.  Help me. I need You.

Monday, December 17, 2012

Betrayal

Betrayal -
according to www.dictionary.reference.com  betrayal/betray means:


1.      to deliver or expose to an enemy by treachery or disloyalty:Benedict Arnold betrayed his       country.
2.
to be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining, or fulfilling: to betray atrust.
3.
to disappoint the hopes or expectations of; be disloyal to: tobetray one's friends.
4.
to reveal or disclose in violation of confidence: to betray a secret.
5.
to reveal unconsciously (something one would preferablyconceal): Her nervousness betrays her insecurity.



Betrayal is something that can come from an enemy or a friend.  It hurts most when it is a loved one, someone dear to your heart.

How could they say that?

Do they not love me?

What kind of person would do that?

How could they just sit by and not say a word?

Betrayal is extremely difficult to deal with.  Jesus was betrayed by not only his enemies, but his friends and family.  He felt the ultimate betrayal and died with that hanging from the cross with him.

He understands betrayal.  He knows how much it hurts.  I'm so thankful He loves me.  I'm so thankful that He always has my back.  I'm so thankful that He will always be there for me.  I'm so thankful He understands.

The only thing I can do in times like this is to pray and not let the devil steal my joy.  The devil uses people and betrayal is one of his favorite tools.  I know it will take time to heal the hurts but I will not let the devil steal my joy, my peace, or my life.

Guard your heart, for out of it flows the issues of life.       God.

Do not cast your pearls before swine.     God


Mat 5:43-48  You have heard that it was said, "You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy."  (44)  But I say to you, Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,  (45)  so that you may become sons of your Father in Heaven. For He makes His sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.  (46)  For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax-collectors do the same?  (47)  And if you greet your brothers only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax-collectors do so?  (48)  Therefore be perfect, even as your Father in Heaven is perfect.

As with all things there is balance.  I must guard my heart and mind.  I cannot put myself into spiritually and physically destructive situations.  Yet, God wants me to have peace in my heart.  So, He helps us come to that place of peace and no bitterness by encouraging us to pray for the betrayer.  There have been times that I had to remove myself from a relationship that was very hurtful for me, but over time I was able to find a peace in my heart and mind and to eventually even pray for God to bless them with His presence, love, and justice.

Sometimes this process is quick other times it can take more than a year.  The result may be reconciliation and other times there can be no relationship restored but only a peace that passes all understanding in my heart.  There are people out there that only want to hurt us and so there can be no communication or relationship.  It is not that there is unforgiveness.  There can be forgiveness but a need for boundaries.

I'll be putting up fences for a long time.  Someone drove on my lawn with a dump truck and dropped a load of poo in an attempt to destroy my home.  I will pray for the driver.








Saturday, December 15, 2012

Love Story - Mountain Views

It is so special to take a long walk with my dear hubby up to the mountains.  


We left the cabin and went west towards the base of one of the snow topped mountains.



It began to snow on us, little flakes falling all around.



We tried to keep our talk about positive things - I don't want to waste my alone time with him on negative subjects.  Although there are times that I just need to talk about issues in my life and he listens to me, oh so patiently, as I vent and steam like a hot volcano.  If I had done that today - in the snow - there would have been a lot of steam!



After 30 minutes, or so, we turned around and began hiking back.  The view to the east was even more spectacular than the one to the west.  Snow was falling heavily on the tops of the mountains surrounding the cabin.  



The sun even tried to break through in areas to make an even more spectacular view.



Such beauty with such great company.


Friday, December 14, 2012

Complete Evil in Connecticut

There is no other word to describe what happened today at the school in Connecticut but EVIL.  
Dark days 

Anyone that would shoot children is EVIL.  

Anyone who would shoot his mother is EVIL.

It is hard to write a funny post when families are mourning the loss of their loved one.

My heart and prayers go out to all the people involved in this tragedy and I hope you, the reader will continue to pray for them, through out the years to come.

Healing may take a long time.



Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Peace to my Soul

Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
John 14:27

We can be set free from the captivity of emotions, just as this wild horse from Wyoming is free.

There are days when my emotions and feelings seem to be overwhelming.  When they are I always try to remember what Jesus said about peace.  He also said there is a peace that passes all understanding.  Sometimes I can't understand my heart or mind.  I want to be happy and content.  I don't want to be grumpy and short tempered.  That is when we can take a moment to be by ourselves.  Think of all the things we have to be thankful for and remember, there are times that we can't have peace in our own strength.  There is a peace that we can have in Jesus' power, though.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Christmas Crazies

Christmas Crazies

don't fall for it.


Stress
Sickness
Spending too much
Strife
in-Sanity

Last year old friends and a business tried to pull us into their nastiness.  

Once again, this year, more people are trying to bring strife and drama into the holidays. 

But I refuse!

I will not allow any thing to ruin my holidays with my family.  
Brush it off. 
Shake it off.
Blow it off.  
Pray it off.

Friday, November 30, 2012

Fat Rolls On Babies Are So Cute!


Babies are so cute.  Their wrinkles and cute fat rolls are darling on them.
I have found they are not so cute on me though!
Join me in my journey of weight loss and my
attempt to look less like my cute, little Josie and
more like a woman.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Write Your Menopause Story


Years ago, I had a vision for a book and I am hoping you will help me complete that vision.  

I need you – your menopause story.

The years of aunts, grandmas, cousins, and friends getting together and talking about the change in women’s lives is gone.  That is where this book comes in.  I am hoping that we can all help each other with words of encouragement, honesty in our struggles, and ideas and solutions that helped you in your journey into post menopausal womanhood.
Please email me you experience with menopause, perimenopause, or a loved one that went through menopause.

These are the people that can write a letter for the book:

  • Women – your experience, your family’s experience
  • Men – a male point of view of menopause
  • Children – how was it when your mother went through the change of life
  • from any country


Email me at
sheri@thelemonadedigest.com  for more info.

I have lists of questions and ideas to help you write your story.

This is your chance to help someone else.


Sunday, November 25, 2012

An Early Grave



After having five children I had retained about 10 lbs extra from the last three. Getting pregnant with my sixth with so much weight on from the start and then getting put on steroids – was more than I could conquer.
The busyness of life and stress kept me from losing the weight I had gained from all six and the steroids.  The day finally arrived that I said to myself,

I am valuable.
I am needed.
I am worthy of time and effort.

I want to live long.
I want to sing songs.
I want to live a life worth living.
Nothing with stop me.

Nothing will slow me down.
No boundaries, only tall fences that I will build.
No limits to what I can do.

Choices worth making.
Chances worth taking.

I will not go to an early grave.
I will live an active life with my family.

I can’t do it alone but I will if I must.
There is strength in numbers even if there are two.

Learn. Research. Challenge my ways.

I will never be the same.

For more on how I lost over 60 lbs, go to my online magazine

Sheri Smith for President Part1


Sheri Smith for President! 

That is right folks!  I’m throwing my hat in the ring for the most prestigious job in the country and one of the most influential in the world. 

What makes me the perfect candidate is the fact that I do not want your vote.  I know this sounds like a contradiction but it is not. 

I am really running for president but have no desire to win. 

That is why I am the perfect candidate.  I can take the issues at hand and not be influenced by your donations, lobbyist, or big business.

As I began teaching my children about government and American History, I realized my lack of knowledge in this area.  By entering the race to be president, it will make my family have to discuss and research local, national, and world politics.  We will debate, discuss, and persuade each other over topics that are of the utmost importance.

I invite you to join me on this quest for a better understanding of our rights as American citizens, the political processes of our country, world politics, domestic affairs, and how to run for office.

So, this is step one in my quest to become president:

 I officially announce my candidacy for President of the United States.

Step Two:  We form a committee to see if anyone is interested in my candidacy.  Cast your vote by leaving a comment and the letter of your choice.

  1.             Sheri Smith is crazy.
  2.      .      I am going to join Sheri Smith in her quest for more knowledge.
  3.            All of the above.  (This is what my husband voted!)

Sheri Smith for President -Part2


Sheri Smith is a woman that feels anyone and everyone can and should make a difference in our neighborhood, city, state, country, and world.

Sheri graduated from high school in southern Wisconsin. She joined the Navy and served her country proudly for over three years as a Spanish linguist. While in the Navy, she met her husband, Shae, and fell madly in love. They married and decided to have a child, which was the start of their now full home.

Her love for people and education spurred Sheri to make the decision to run for president. Her desire is to educate her children, family, community, state, country, and world on the foundations of government and the responsibility of every citizen and immigrant to be knowledgeable in these areas.

Sheri feels that people need to be more educated in the voting process and the basics of government. Through posts on this blog Sheri hopes to bring a light into the darkness of political ignorance blanketing our country. She has so much to learn herself, so she desires to take the country along with her on this long journey of increasing wisdom about the democracy we live in and the world governments around us.

The following are the requirements, according to the Constitution, to become a president of the United States:
  • One must be born in the U.S., or both parents must be citizens of the U.S. if born abroad.
  • One must be at least 35 years of age.
  • One must have lived in U.S. for at least 14 years. If these are to be consecutive years, has never been specified or challenged.
Below is the portion of the Constitution which lays out these requirements:

US Constitution, Article II, Section 1
No person except a natural born citizen, or a citizen of the United States, at the time of the adoption of this Constitution, shall be eligible to the office of President; neither shall any person be eligible to that office who shall not have attained to the age of thirty-five years, and been fourteen years a resident within the United States.

 (update: obviously Sheri didn't win the 2012 election and wasn't even on the ballot - but there is always 2016   Watch out Hilary!)

Hard Holidays Ahead



Holidays with pain and suffering seem like no holiday at all.  The usual prospects of fun, parties, laughing, and playing vanish as the reality of struggles and sorrow loom ahead.
How can we overcome this?  How can the holidays be a time of joy in the midst of difficulties?

Take each moment captive.  Every minute and every situation can be made individual.  Instead of lumping the entire day together or trying to take on the entire Christmas season and all of its stresses and joys, take one circumstance and try to deal with the positives and negatives of it.

We not only take each circumstance separately, we do not take the emotions from one situation and let it bleed over into the next.  I take a deep breath and try to differentiate between emotions from one problem and the next.  Is this emotion from an earlier dilemma or is it from this moment?

Stop.
Think.
Pray.

The day may look like this - 
Kids wake up grumpy
Ill family member has a hard morning
Maybe you don’t feel your best
Something spills
Something breaks

It is important to take each problem and separate it from others.  Often times I find myself taking out my frustrations on a loved one or the frying pan when neither was to blame for my emotions.

When we do respond harshly to someone we love or even someone we don’t like and our harshness had nothing to do with them, we can apologize and begin again.
So, one bit of advice for you that I have had to apply for many years of having a husband in pain is to take the day one breath at a time.  The holidays are not about presents, parties, and panic-

The holidays are about love, inner peace, inner joy, and remembering how blessed we are to have a God who loves us so much.

If you don’t get the cards off, or buy all the presents you had planned – it is OK.

Simplify each day, each emotion, each action, each holiday.

Love Story - Chase



The way he looks at me, with that sparkle in his eyes.  

I can tell the fire in front of the love is just a disguise.  

He finds a way to pick on me to show his love. 

The look, I can feel from across the room as I run to hide.  

The chase is on – all fun and games – with jokes and laughs to follow.

A love story can be written on paper but is better lived through the day.  

The looks, stares, touch, and laughs are the way to draw near.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Travel Tips for Families part 1

We took our kids off road to the top of a mountain in Utah!
Our family has always enjoyed traveling.  My husband and I have been known to be adventurous, so heading out on the road full-time in our camper was not a surprise to many who knew us.  So, after three years on the road, I would say I am an expert on traveling with children. 
I would like to share some of my ideas to help your travel be more pleasant, educational, happy, peaceful, exciting, practical, and affordable.
Starting off our trip in 2008, I had five children ranging in age from 15 months to 16 yrs old.  Two weeks after our house sold I got the confirmation that I was pregnant with number six!  So, I may be able to help you out if you travel pregnant!
Preparation is one of the keys to a good trip.  But, there are times when we have no time to prepare for travel and adventure - so do it anyways!  Enjoy what you can, forget the rest!
Preparation can make a trip much more enjoyable and easy but the lack of preparation should not make you feel guilty or disappointed.  At that point, when you have to be more spur-of-the-moment, make the choice to enjoy yourself no matter what.  That positive attitude will transfer to your spouse and children.

Hopefully you will have time to prepare before you head out, whether it be for a day or a month, or like us - since 2008!  Thinking of the little things will help everyone have a more enjoyable time; a positive memory instead of one that is wrought with arguing, discomfort, and chaos.  Which, by the way, I have had plenty of those!
Some basic things to think about:
  • Full children are happy children.  Actually, that goes for husbands, too.  Bring plenty of snacks and food along.  Try to limit sugar as their car seats are difficult to contain a wild child.
  • Bring tons of water.  Everyone can have their own water bottle.  Everyone in our family has their own stainless steal water bottle that they are responsible to carry.  Of course, this excludes the young ones.  The camel backs are also quite handy.  They hold water in a backpack that has a tube that comes over the shoulder and a nozzle to drink out of.  This is quite handy.  They can get expensive, so price shop these.
  • Eat protein for breakfast, before heading out.  It will help give everyone the energy they need.  Garbage/junk food just makes for grouchy, wild children.
  • I take vitamin b-12 under the tongue to help me with stress :)
  • Saltine Crackers, the wheat variety, and peanut butter are great to bring along.  Just remember plates, napkins, and a knife.  I try not to pack anything sticky, like fruit cups or applesauce; it is just too much mess.
  • For more food ideas check out my book, coming out soon, about traveling with kids.
  • Bring two extra sets of clothes per person.  Make sure each has a warm set and cool set.  A couple extra pairs of socks.  We all have our own sun hat that covers our ears.  It keeps our sunblock usage lower.  I don't like putting any extra chemicals in our body, if not necessary.  Now, I'm not saying I don't use sunblock, I do, just only when necessary.  Usually a sun hat make a huge difference.  Sunblock is essential for those situations where clothing will not be enough coverage. 
  • We always carry a set of rubber boots for each person so we can jump in any random river or lake we come across.  If the water is cold the boots help keep out the cold water.  They are also great in mud.  If you can't afford to buy rubber boots for everyone, at least bring a set of flip flops for everyone.
  • Pack a picnic blanket that is not made out of material that things stick to it.
  • Find a small notebook for each child.  I don't like to have my kids run around with sharp, long pencils, so crayons or short colored pencils work great.  If you don't have a small notebook, just staple together paper and write their name on the front.  I encourage them to draw what they see.  It is a great way to get them looking out the window and learning to appreciate what is in this amazing creation.
  • If going to a friend or relatives home it is always nice to come with a gift.  All the kids can draw pictures on the way and then present them to the friend or relative.  Is there a gift unique to your home area?  Sometimes we crochet a washcloth on the way to give to anyone we visit. 
  • We always go over the rules that pertain to the place we are going.  Whether it be a museum, park, relatives, national park, hiking, biking, four-wheeling, or swimming, we discuss what is safe and unsafe, appropriate and not, how to act and what they can do.  I always end it with the rule they cannot break, no matter what, or they have to sit in the car (not really) - HAVE FUN!  They always laugh when I tell them that rule.
  • Is your camera charged?  Extra SD cards?  Cell charged?  Do you have your video camera along with extra tapes/sd cards? 
  • Send a picture text to friends and relatives of your family enjoying where ever you have gone.  It is nice to always include others in what you are doing.
More ideas will be added on this page soon.  Check back.
For a full list of supplies, idea, recommendations, and advice for full-time travel, purchase Sheri's guide to travel with a family, coming soon.

Breast Feeding Gold Medal


I have been nursing 172 months.  That is almost 15 years and that figure will keep going up as I continue to nurse my little guy, Tytus.

WOW

172 MONTHS!

I have been married 254 months.  That means I have NOT been nursing only about 7 years of my 21 year marriage.

What does that mean? 

A few things:
1. I am an expert nursing mom.
2. My breasts are not mine.
3. My breasts have been big for most my marriage and I will have to buy all new bras when I stop nursing.
4. I have to do a lot of chest exercises to lift my chest.
5. I have had the privilege of feeding six wonderful children the best food available to them.
6. I have a much less chance of getting breast cancer.

What about nursing in public?  Do you eat in public?  I am not embarrassed to nurse anywhere at anytime.  My shyness, timidity, and desire to please others will not come before my child's health.  I eat in public, so will my children.  I do try to be discrete and sensitive to certain people who might be unsure or embarrassed about my nursing, but I will not stop because of their issues.  Sometimes I might leave the room and other times I can't so they will have to make adjustments if they don't like seeing me nurse.

I believe we can be a beacon of light to the people who are against nursing.  To do that, we should continue to feed our children where ever we need to but with thoughtfulness to those around us.

The benefit of nursing is so great for mom and child that I can't imagine why not to nurse.  Other than medical conditions, I see no reason for a mother to not nurse her child.  It is time consuming, it isn't always convenient, and it is humbling at times - yet - the health benefits for our child must come before our own comfort, convenience, embarrassment  or any other reason a person might not nurse. 

Sacrifice for our children is one of the most heroic actions a woman can take.  I was in the military during the first Gulf War.  I was willing to die for my country.  Yet, I am even more willing to die for my family.  This is not a physical death but a death to my selfishness - a death to society's crazy thought patterns.

I am more alive today than ever.  I find more fulfillment in my days as a mother and wife than I ever did single or working outside the home.

I am woman - hear me roar....no not roar....purr.




Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Keeping My Mouth Shut




I feel a little emotional.  Some of those emotions are warranted, earned, and deserved, while other emotions I felt today seem to come from impatience and unforgiveness.

As a mother and wife I need to have the discernment of what are appropriate and acceptable emotions and ones that are harmful to relationships.

I spent some time alone in prayer in my bedroom; taking all that was in my heart before the Lord for Him to help me process them.

It is so important to take that time with the Lord before we lash out at those we love most.  

I spent the evening with my husband and children; laughing, crying, and snuggling.

A good night.


Saturday, August 18, 2012

Important Documents That Will Change Your Life

Below you will find links to important documents and information concerning the United States Government.

Please take the time to -

           Not just read  it
            But study it
            Not just study it
            But understand it.
            Not just understand it
            But discern the heart of the words held within.

Every American has a responsibility to know the laws of this land and make sure the government upholds not just the letter of the law but the heart of the law.

http://www.archives.gov/exhibits/charters/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/State_law_(United_States)
http://www.archives.gov/exhibits/charters/print_friendly.html?page=constitution_transcript_content.html&title=The%20Constitution%20of%20the%20United%20States%3A%20A%20Transcription
Even young people need to read the Constitution

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Those Brown Dress Shoes


The lines on my feet can't be seen well in this photo but I sure could feel them!
Those shoes were cute but hurt!

I winced in pain as I put my feet on the floor early this morning.  What was I thinking wearing those new high heels for 9 hours of standing at the Home Education Convention this weekend.  When I saw the shoes at the store I glanced at them and walked right past.  I loved the look of them but felt they were too stylish for me.  In the end, though, I decided to be daring and bought the brown dress shoes.

They felt good on my feet Saturday morning as I put them on, but they sure didn't feel so good by the end of the day!  My feet have never hurt so bad.  I cringed as I climbed into our truck in the parking lot next to the expo center and pulled off the torturous contraptions.  There were deep indentations criss-crossing my feet and parts of the bottom seemed to be numb.

As today progressed, the numbness disappeared and the blisters no longer burned.  I spent most the morning catching up on a chores and feeding the family.  After a short church service, we all piled in our off-road vehicle, the Kawasaki Mule, and drove to the river near the campground. 

The water was low, seeing we haven’t had a lot of rain.  I shook out the rubber boots to make sure there were no spiders hiding inside and we got in the water.  These boots felt much better than those dress shoes!